This is not an episode about having MORE material things. It’s about what my guest Suzette Conway so brilliantly calls that ‘angsty’ feeling that there is something MORE to life. More to learn and be. Some of us seem never to have lived without that feeling…Insatiable curiosity. A desire to serve. To find meaning, purpose, and to have a vibrant intellectual life. Is it just a void we’re trying to fill or distract ourselves from by always being busy? Or is that feeling a sign that we are indeed meant to do more, and our soul is trying to get our attention? Suzette finally took a giant leap, doing something many of us either couldn’t, or wouldn’t have the courage to do. Why? To make sure other women who feel like there must be “MORE” don’t feel alone, to build a community, and to live what she calls a more vibrant life. Know what a “Flittersphere” is? Tune in to find out.
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Rana Olk (Host): Hello everybody. I am back with a guest today. Her name is Suzette Conway, I met Suzette at a conference in Austin, Texas, and when I say neat, I mean we were in the same room listening to one fascinating speaker after another about the brain and neuroscience, and I think we might have exchanged a few words. I can’t really remember if we ever officially met or shook hands, but I knew her name and that she was a kindred spirit right away from day one. If there was a question or a comment to be made. She didn’t shy away. Her hand was up and every word she shared was insightful. Every question she asked was either a question I had or a question I didn’t even know I had. But I was so glad she had asked. She was my buddy before she even knew it as conferences usually go, there just wasn’t enough time to ask her to go to lunch, or have someone at one time. And let’s face it, it is kind of awkward when don’t really know somebody and there’s all that stuff going on to say, Hey, I really want to have lunch with you, because I really like you, right? So of course, thank God for Facebook and social media. We found each other there and I’ve been following her for about seven months now. I finally decided a couple of weeks ago that I just had to talk to her. We talked one on one face to face because thankfully, she agreed. And so it was on zoom that we hit it off like old friends. We share an intense curiosity and fascination with just about everything, reading, and learning. It seems like it’s a need as primal to us as breathing air. And then there’s what we called the almost angsty constant thorn in our side of needing and wanting to grow and contribute something valuable to the world to fulfill a mission except or both so interested and so many things that we have difficulty focusing in one area. So I realized I was right, we really do have a lot in common and truthfully, even trying to describe what it’s like to live with this constant curiosity and desire to go deep. And learning is something I’ve never been able to really do or talk about with people who don’t share those feelings. And Sue’s that was the first person I’ve ever met. That just she gets it, she totally gets what that feeling is. So when we had our conversation, I also learned that says that has taken some extraordinary steps to pursue what she feels is her mission. And that is why I wanted her to join us today. I’m going to ask her to share her story with you. But first, I want to let you know that if you are an intensely curious person, you ever feel overwhelmed with awe and fascination because of something you just learned. If you are the kind of person who would rather skip the parties and the small talk and you crave deep conversations you need to reach out to us. So Suzette, welcome. And thank you so much for being here.
Suzette Conway (Guest): Hello and thank you for having me. I’m super excited about what we’re going to talk about today.
Rana Olk (Host): Well, let’s start with this. What is your mission? So that if you were to try to put it in words, what do you hear for?
Suzette Conway (Guest): Sure. So, you know, it’s an interesting question. And it took me until recently to really figure out what that was. But it has become so clear to me that my mission is to help women create more vibrant lives. And that’s my purpose in life. And I’ve turned that into a mission of helping 100,000 women lead more vibrant lives, and that’s lives full of more joy and meaning and well being. So yeah, I don’t know how I’m going to do that. But I’m going to do it. I’m going to reach you and teach you and talk to you and help people live better.
Rana Olk (Host): I wonder when you say vibrant? What else does that encompass? Typically, you know, when we say we want to help people do something, right? We see a pain or something that needs fixing in the world, what is it that you are seeing?
Suzette Conway (Guest): So I think it goes back to what you were talking about in your intro, which is there are people like us who want the most we can get from life. But we don’t always know how to go about doing it. Or what it is, we often feel isolated, not realizing that there are other people who want that as much as we do. But then also there are people who don’t try that even that much, but still wanted. So if you ever think about like, I want that something more in life, there has to be more than paying bills and doing laundry and going to work every day. What am I supposed to be doing here? What is my role in this world? What is my purpose, right. And we don’t all ask those questions the same way, or with the same urgency or with the same level of depth of interest, right. But we all as human beings tend to wonder why we’re here and why we’re supposed to be doing and how we leave our mark. So that we didn’t just live eight years and die with nothing to show for it, right. And so it becomes this sort of quest. And as I mentioned, in different levels of intensity I, but we’re all looking for our best lives. So I think that people want to live well, but they don’t know what that means. And they don’t know where to start. And you’ll hear it talked about as things like having a flourishing life or having a thriving life. And it’s covered a lot, this concept of how we live our best lives is covered a lot in the field of positive psychology. And that’s where those terms will show up thriving and flourishing and things like that. So what I have discovered in my quest for that for my own best life, and in my research, because I’m an avid researcher, and an input is one of my strengths. I pour over stuff all the time. And what I have discovered is, there is a set of life elements, if you will, that I’ve been able to cobble together. But if you can make your life more vibrant in each of these areas, and you don’t even have to do it in all of these areas. But you kind of just tackle each one, you will live a happier, healthier, more robust life that is richer and fuller, and just makes you happy. It’s a life that I think is one that is connected with our true nature and purpose, right with whom we are deep down and finding a way to express that outwardly. So for me, I think about those vibrant life elements of things like having meaningfulness in our lives being engaged in our life, social connections, you and I’ve chatted about the need for, for the problem with loneliness in the world today, and how it’s actually getting a little bit worse with technology and stuff. And social connections are critical. It’s actually really vital to your health, that you stay connected to people in your life. And so there are social connections, there’s creativity, there’s being aware of your own inner life, right? The things that drive you, your interest, your hobbies, your thoughts, what you focus on, what do you do when no one else is around that nobody knows you do, right? When you can get deeply connected to those things, and then find a way to manifest them outward, you live a better life. And then, of course, there’s stuff like well being, emotional wellbeing, physical well being, for me, it also includes financial and spiritual well being. And when you take all of those together, I call those the 10 elements of vibrant living. And, and so the trick is, then, if you think about living vibrantly as a continuum, on the one, and there’s this sort of dispirited state, when you’re not vibrant, you’re not at your best things don’t quite feel right, you just can’t put your finger on it, but you just not happy in whatever area we’re talking about in your life. And then at the other end of the continuum is vibrant, and that is where you are just literally glowing and thrilled with your life and everything sort of fires on time and in slow that kind of stuff. The trick is to know, how do you recognize when you’re in the dispirited state? And what can you do to intentionally nudge yourself to that vibrant state? And so that’s what my work is about.
Rana Olk (Host): So it sounds like you and I have been in that state where we’re looking for more vibrancy. And you mentioned that it took you a while to find this mission. Why? Why? Because I think there are probably other listeners out there who are feeling that Inks that sensation of oh my gosh, there’s something else that I want to be doing. I just don’t know what it is. What was it? That was the last straw the moment when you decided I have to seek this more vibrant life for myself?
Suzette Conway (Guest): Yeah, that’s such a powerful question, Ron. It just, you know, what’s interesting about it, and I think I’m probably not alone in this is my guess is that it wasn’t a single moment. It was a series of moments that I couldn’t quite understand or get clarity on, or that I ignored and turned away from. And one of the things I realized when this all finally came to a head for me was that it’s really easy to get into a life that is what we expect of ourselves, right? We do what’s expected, we, I got a good job, I went to school, I had a home, I had all these things that are supposed to represent success, and in many ways did and I still wasn’t quite happy. And I couldn’t figure out why. And it finally hit me one day that it’s because I was living to sort of shadow life, right? It was just close enough to what I really wanted. It wasn’t painful enough for me to change or explore further, but it wasn’t close enough to what was really speaking to my heart that I was happy and satisfied. So I was in this Limbo state. And it was, as you mentioned, it was very angsty, I knew I was meant for something more. I knew that my life could be more and I didn’t know how to go about doing it. And for me, what happened was, it came to this go ahead, if you will, my sister had moved in with me, her and her husband had moved in while they had sold their house. And we’re waiting for their new house to be built. And we used to have all these really great conversations about exactly this topic, right? Are you happy? If not why? And I mentioned to her one day I said, I feel like selling my house and starting over just pressing the reset button on my house, I’m on my life, you know, take the money from the house and not have to work and figure this out, explore and discover what I’m supposed to be doing with my life. And she said, Why don’t you I didn’t have a good answer for high didn’t have a reason not to do it. I could have come up with plenty of reasons. And most people do. And I’m not suggesting you need to sell your house. But for me, that was the thing that gave me the freedom financially, and then also in terms of life responsibilities, to just pause everything else and go headfirst into figuring out what it was I wanted
Rana Olk (Host): fear afraid of. Because that typically any reason or excuse that we given those situations when you say you couldn’t give her a good answer, it’s because you knew that whatever answer you give was insufficient, right.
Suzette Conway (Guest): Exactly. The whatever answer I could come up with was not enough cosmically, if you will, to stop me it didn’t have the power like it would have stopped me if I let it. I just mean there, there wasn’t a good reason. And fear comes up everywhere, right? I have really strong limiting beliefs around fear of failure, fear of not being enough fear of not being capable of fear of imperfection, and those things drive everything I do. And so it isn’t that I got rid of those things. I’ve learned how to recognize them, and rise above them and choose to go forth anyway. And it’s worth noting that that’s not an easy process for me. And it is not something that I do once and move on from, I do it every day. And some days, I’m better at it than others, and some days talking about and that lines up right, with my creative cycle, if you will, some days, I produce what I want for my life. And some days, I just have to step back and say, All right, today is a day of rest or something else that I need instead of just doing all the time.
Rana Olk (Host): Wow, I’m so glad you mentioned that because I think it’s something that a lot of us go through, particularly when you are a high performer or a person with high standards for yourself. And you’re used to being hard on yourself and used to succeeding people think they look at you from the outside and can’t imagine that you have those problems because, hey, you’ve everything you’ve done, you’ve done well, and your quote-unquote “successful” so what would you have to be afraid of?
Suzette Conway (Guest): Yeah, I think that’s really true. And for me, it’s interesting, because if you look at my life, before I made the shift, it was I had a corporate career and learning and development and I had a good reputation and a good career. And I made good money. And I’ve been doing that for about 25 years, I had a college degree, I had a home, all these sorts of things that we usually check off as, as signs that life is going well. And it was I don’t mean to be am grateful about it. Life is fine. Life is good. It’s just for people like you and me, that’s not often enough. I usually find myself not satisfied ever where I’m at. And I wanted more, and I wanted better. And so yeah, from the outside, and it looks really great. And now it’s funny, because I slipped it all around from the outside, and I look like I’m 20. And starting over in my life. Again, I sold my home, I packed up almost everything I owned that I didn’t sell into storage. I moved into my sister’s dining room where I can live relatively free of any expense and stress as I build a business and shift my life and get my health in order and write a book and all that stuff, right? And so if you look at me, now, you kind of go Who, what did she do wrong with her life. She’s living her own apartment. And I think it’s a really good lesson, right? About being really connected to who you are and what you want in life. And that means that you can’t really look externally for validation of what you’re doing. You have to be true to yourself and do what I call keeping your own counsel, right? I know this is the right path for me, it’s uncomfortable for me, because I am a high achiever. And in my corporate life, I think nobody would have thought, Oh, you really struggle with fear and insecurity. And you can’t do it because of look at what you do. And so when you pull back from the structure that you used to like a corporate job and go into a structure that you’re not used to, like me, resetting my life, I’ve discovered things like I’m not terribly motivated when there’s not a boss around that can fire me, right? I have discovered that it takes 10 times as long as I ever thought it would do any one thing. And I’ve discovered that I let fear stop me a lot. It’s not a comfortable thing. But I’m doing it. Because I have gotten so clear on the fact that this is the right path for me. And it doesn’t matter to me anymore. If other people understand it or recognize that it’s not for them to understand. It took me a long time to get here. And so now we’re going to see what happens, right? I could be wrong. This could be this could all go to pot and know, I could have to go back and get a corporate job. And we’ll see. But at least I will know that I tried. And that’s really important to people like you and me.
Rana Olk (Host): If I had to describe one of my biggest fears in life, it is the fear of regret, I am terrified that I’m going to say woulda, shoulda, coulda, and I also am intrigued by the fact that you and I feel this way and whoever’s listening right now, if they’re still listening, if you’re still out there, you obviously can relate to this. There are people who can’t. And I’m very, very intrigued by that. I’m, I’m almost wistful at times to be one of those people who can go to a job every day. And there’s none of that, Oh, my gosh, I should be doing something more. I could be doing something more. I want to have more meaning in my life. Do you know what I’m talking about? When I say there are people out there like that. And it’s difficult for me to communicate with them.
Suzette Conway (Guest): Yeah, I do. And I know a number of people and my friends. And I’ve chatted about this, that not everybody is like you and me, some people like, you know what, I’m here. I got a couple of kids and a spouse and a job and And who am I to ask for more. And I think it’s worth noting that it doesn’t mean that I’m not grateful for what I have. And that I don’t see the blessings in my life is that there’s something in me akin to a tortured artist who knows that I’m capable of more and who wants to have an impact in the world I live in. And the idea that that wouldn’t come to fruition is torture to me. If I think about living, you know, waking up at 80 or 90 years and looking back on my life. And I think, gosh, I just I just kind of had an average life. I didn’t try anything, even if none of it worked. At least I should have tried something right to live my best at 9100 years, whatever I have here and what I think about that prospect, it is incredibly disheartening to me and I don’t want that for myself. So and I think some people just don’t think like that, and that’s okay. Right. It’s, I guess it’s okay, that they’re, they’re not one of us if you can’t have everybody be the same. And I think that’s why it’s easy to get caught up in this whole What am I doing? Who am I not to be thankful? Who am I to want more? And we hear that message a lot, especially in the United States, right? It’s this idea of being greedy because you want more as opposed to just going No, no, I deserve more. And I’m capable of more and I can give more if I just figure out how to leverage myself brought probably right, my gifts and my talents and even my insecurities. If I can figure out how to leverage them. I can make a better life for myself and hopefully have an impact on the world. And it’s taking me a long time to realize that that’s not wrong. And it’s okay to say that out loud. And surprisingly, what I do say it out loud. I meet people like you, right? Like, I mean, how amazing is that? When you speak your truth. You get connected to other people who share that truth.
Rana Olk (Host): And I think this is where it really matters to surround yourself with people who will encourage you and lift you up. It really makes a difference. Tell us about how you created a group for people like this.
Suzette Conway (Guest): Oh, thank you. Yeah, I did. I have created a space called the flitter sphere and the concept behind this is that people like you and I are a bit like fireflies. Right. We have the sort of light in us that we have an innate organic me to shine. We can’t turn it off. We need to put our best selves out there and have our best lives. And when you think of a single Firefly, that light at night when it’s just desperate. It’s beautiful. But when you get a community of fireflies together, it is Max and as it turns out, those fireflies use their lights to communicate with one another. It actually has a mate but I like to think of it as broader than that just sort of a Hey, you’re one of my people, right? I’m one of your people. And when I thought about that concept that makes so much sense for what I wanted for my life, and for what I wanted to create. And it turns out there is not a word for a group of fireflies. So like you might have a herd of buffalo or a school of fish or a pack of dogs. There isn’t a thing of fireflies out there so I created a word called splitter so the idea is that the flitter sphere is the space in which we all come together to let our best light shine to connect with other people like us to share and cheer each other on and to tell our stories because it’s in that connection where there’s power right? We’re as human beings were not meant to do this work alone We’re meant to do and community and so I really wanted to create a space where we could come together and let our light shine together and communicate and connect and just be our best selves. So I created the Flitter sphere and so yeah.
Rana Olk (Host): I love the flitter sphere. Flitter sphere, it was hard for me to say it when you first told me but now I find like it’s just rolling off my tongue. If I am joining the flitter sphere and I know you just created it and you have a vision for it. What can I expect? Where do you see this going? You said something about helping 100,000 women find their most vibrant lives How do you envision doing that? What would it look like in your ideal world?
Suzette Conway (Guest): Oh that’s a really good question so right I did just start it and right now it’s an online space so you can find us on Facebook and there are a website and all that stuff but it’s I don’t want it to just be limited to online I like to think of the flitter sphere is just any gathering of all these Fireflies like spirits right so in some cases will be online and I would love to have that hundred thousand women on this Facebook presence but we also break that into into groups so for every course I offer or workshop or retreat there’s usually a flitter sphere subgroup with it, so that people who are engaged and discussing that topic and experiencing it in their lives can do it in sort of a central place but the general idea is that it all feeds into this larger concept of a flitter sphere and right now that’s online but I see that as being things like face to face meetups and conferences like I have this notion of a flitter Fest in my mind but just like a multi day conference where we all come together and and and meet face to face and in person and I would love for people who meet online like you and I did right where we really connected online to feel comfortable taking their friendships into real life and really just experiencing it like that. So almost said that it’s a an essence of being connected authentically to other people who are like you and share your your desire for your best life whether that’s online or offline. I think it’s going to grow into lots of amazing things and I think it’ll be just anywhere a few of us Firefly spirits gather we will be enough leaders here.
Rana Olk (Host): I really love that now I think it might be important to say when you did something as drastic as selling your home and quitting your job Did you know that you were going to be creating the flitter sphere or was it a jump and the net will appear kind of decision?
Suzette Conway (Guest): So it was sort of both it was I did have the concept for the flitter sphere as an as a what we just described, like this community meeting place, fight Firefly energy, that kind of stuff. And I knew the name of the company that I was going to create, ultimately, which is called purple chicken life LLC. And so I knew those things. And but I didn’t know there was definitely an element of jumping the net will appear because I didn’t know how what I wanted to do. Like I, for me, you talked about earlier, how we have input and we’re interested in fascinated and all these different things, right. So for me, one of the struggles was, how do I niche down to something that I can focus on, and I was interested in everything under the sun. I mean, whether you’re talking about the neuroscience stuff, or forgiveness or connection, and social engagement, Grace and generosity. And I mean, just, I have so much stuff I’m fascinated by. And I couldn’t figure out what to do with that. And at first, I have this concept in my head of sort of coffee shop chats. So this notion of when you get together with one of your best friends who has this kind of energy that we’re talking about, and you have these amazing conversations, and it’s full of aha moments, I call them sparkle moments and sparkle people. And I wanted to create that, and I didn’t know how, so I just started doing something. I started thinking about things like, what are all the topics I’m interested in? And where do they overlap, and what kind of groupings could I watched them into. And one of the things I did, and this is really what propelled me in large part to make this change is I had taken out a folder that I had, it was probably no kidding, about five or six inches thick of all these ideas I’ve been gathering for years and years and years, and you open it up. And it just is like looking at the inside of my mind, like, tear off pieces of envelope and post it notes and legal pads and spiral, everything jammed in there full of ideas about businesses and products that I could create and taglines and marketing slogans and things like, you know, do CD ROM courses, remember when CD ROM like and coaching and workshops and so it was sort of all there and when I laid it all out, its formed just a cover my entire dining room table and several layers and, and it broke my heart when I looked at it, because for instance, because what I thought was, this is 20 years of my soul screaming out to do what I meant to do. And I’ve been shoving it in a folder because I didn’t have the money to do it. I didn’t have the time or energy, I couldn’t figure out how to leverage that part of my life. honor that part of my life while still having a full-time job and all this stuff. And so in that instant, I thought, holy cow, how, how long am I going to let my soul scream at me to do what I would love and then just ignore it. And so that was a real game changer for me. And that was when I realized this was the time and I knew that the literature was going to be the concept. And I knew her chicken life was the company name and all this stuff. But I didn’t know what to do. So I started playing with it. I started, as I said, grouping topics, grouping possibilities, courses, workshops, retreats, coaching, whatever, how can I reach people and help that was what I was going for. And it’s not been easy. It’s been now 20 months since I started this, I have been lucky enough to have a coach that helps me professionally and personally, to figure out how to tap into my own creativity and overcome my limiting beliefs to build what it is I want for myself. And I sometimes joke with her that I must be her worst client because I am so uncoachable and it has taken me so long to get here, right? But it is slowly over time, I have managed to come up with the brand concepts and the product offerings and the topics I want to talk about, and a roadmap if you will, for the products I’m going to create. But really what’s jelled for me? Is the experience I want to create. It isn’t just about, yes, we can do courses and workshops and retreats. A lot of people do that. It’s about this experience. I want what you and I are having right now. These deep aha filled sort of inspiring moments where we just kind of go Oh, yeah, this I feel good right here. This lights me up. And it energizes me to connect with people like this or to do whatever it is that energizes. And so it’s just slowly come together. I just now once my first-course product, and I don’t know how long it will take to do other stuff. And I trust that it will come together as it should. And one of the most fascinating things to me about this process has been that if I had forced it and launched something that I had an idea for 20 months ago, it would look nothing like what I have the vision for now, and it wouldn’t have been right and it would not have created the experiences I’m looking for. And so one of the things I’ve learned is just to trust yourself, trust the process to unfold and evolve naturally, I don’t have to rush it and it just will happen.
Rana Olk (Host): So tell me what purple chicken life is. I have to know how…tell me what it is.
Suzette Conway (Guest): So this, this chicken thing, okay. So if I when I one of my corporate jobs many years ago, we had a head of sales who was very distractible and switches, something I can relate to. And one of his employees gave him a T-shirt that said, Everybody keeps saying, I have ADD, but I don’t know what he or she’s, hey, look at that chicken. That was the T-shirt, right? And so I told my family about it. Because we are a family of distracted people. We are often having multiple conversations at one time, and getting distracted by whatever we see in the middle of that conversation. And we thought it was funny. And it became this sort of family joke to say, it wasn’t just a chicken. It was chicken with Louisiana style beads, like, what is that thing and Louisiana they’ll be like it had Mardi Gras beads around its neck. And it was gold. And all this joking. Turned into it was a purple chicken. And what it so that was a joke in our family for a long time, whenever one of us would get distracted, we’d be going, Yeah. Oh, look at that. And someone would yell chicken. So what happened is, as I’ve gone along this journey, long before I knew flitter sphere was going to happen, but still accepting write about what I wanted for my life, it became really clear to me that I see if I can figure out how to say this. We live in a world that values people who can focus and who can niche down to one thing, and who just sort of becoming experts at that. And we live in a world of people who, if you have 27 things going on at one time, they think that’s a bad thing. They’re going to label you with ADHD, or you’re a distracted person, or you’re incapable of focusing, it took me a long time to realize that is not a defect it is an asset, the fact that I can take that much information and, and make sense of it, and curated and kind of organize it and make the connections and share it with other people. That is a skill and it is an asset and it is part of who I am. And I was tired of feeling like there was something wrong with me for being like that, for being distracted. I was to do not run I bought a book of adult ADHD and got distracted before I could finish reading it like it. It just was how my brain works. If you look at my computer, there are 20 tabs open at one time and they’re all sort of loosely related but not really and I’m interested in all of it and so what happened was I realized that this distractibility was core to who I was its core to who I am, and I was tired of denying that and it was ready to honor it. So for me, purple chicken life is about saying, I honor who I am in all my scattered nature as something beautiful and something worthwhile and I am determined to live my best purple chicken life, right? And so that’s, that’s what came out for me with live a life that’s tied to who I am to my true nature.
Rana Olk (Host): I’m so glad I asked about that is something as well that I can relate to. And I think it is a relief to hear someone say, you know I’m distractible to and it doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with me. That’s great. Now before I asked my last question, which is a very important question I need to have you repeat how people can find you and how they can reach out to you if they want to, or
Suzette Conway (Guest): Sure Thank you. So probably the best way right now is the Facebook group because the website while it’s up and running, it’s still a little we’re tweaking it right. But you can find us on Facebook the name of the group is splitter sphere with Suzette Conway. So it’s flitter, “F-L-I-T-T-E-R-S-P-H-E-R-E” flitter sphere with Suzette Conway. You can also find us on flittersphere.com. But as I said, that’s kind of still under construction. So go there, but don’t be too dismayed. us a link doesn’t work. We’re still working. Yeah. And that’s the fastest way. And then from there, we can connect you will, that’s where we’ll announce all of our offerings and our experiences as we create them. It’s where we come together as a group, and you can connect from there to any other subgroups that exist.
Rana Olk (Host): Fantastic. Now, it took you a while to figure out your mission. You sold your house, you moved in with your sister, there are people out there listening who are saying, I have this feeling, but I feel stuck. There’s no way I can sell my house. There’s no way I can drop what I’m doing. But I need to find some sort of satisfaction or fulfillment of my soul screaming, right? You said that you use that word. And it’s so true. It’s almost like your soul screaming for something and you can’t figure out what it is. The way I used to put it is, it’s like the kid screaming and throwing a temper tantrum pulling on your skirt, and you would fulfill their wish and desire if you knew what it was. But you don’t. So that screen ends. So what is one thing that you would suggest somebody who is feeling that could do starting today?
Suzette Conway (Guest): Another really good question, there is so much you could do, right. And I think it’s worth pointing out that you don’t need to sell your house or move in with your sister or quit your job. Those are things I chose to do because it worked for me. But you don’t have to do that there’s a lot you can do to live a more vibrant life, right, you can get your health in order, you can increase your social connections, you can be more engaged in life, all of that. But one of the simplest and most powerful ways that I’ve discovered that you can feel more satisfied with your life, which is really critical for people like us who it’s not that we’re not happy, right? It’s not that we’re not aware of the goodness in our life, it’s that we just kind of are always yearning for something else, we need more satisfaction, one of the best ways to do that is to start a gratitude practice. Because it helps you to really understand what is good in your life right now, regardless of what shape it’s in, what status or progress you’ve made on it, you can be grateful for things that are about to happen, you can be grateful for your dreams and your visions of what you want for your life. grateful. So who you are and what you have to the offering. What’s unique about you that purple chicken essence anyway. And so to me, practicing gratitude is really simple. You can do it in a few minutes a day. And what you’ll find and the science will bear this out the research bears this out is that after just a couple of weeks of practicing this, you will start to recognize changes in your life in your attitude. And the way you perceive the world, in your health in the way you sleep, everything. And then if you just keep doing that beyond a couple of weeks, so I did you make it a daily habit. It really will change your life in an in a number of ways. And I’ve seen it happen in my life. I see that happened in other people’s lives. And I find it so compelling that I actually just launched a course. In fact, I launched it right before our call today, that’s called gratitude changes everything. And you can find that there’s I just posted about it in that flavor sphere Facebook group, and you can get to it from Twitter, sphere. com. But the idea is that in just a few minutes a day, you can build a habit that is personal and unique to you that works in your life so that you’ll keep doing it. And in just a few short weeks, you will start to recognize changes in your life. And to me, that is the simplest step forward to living a better life.
Rana Olk (Host): I agree. It really is we give it a lot of lip service. And people say, Oh, well, I’m grateful. I’ve say my prayers. I’m grateful for the food I eat and this and that. But you really need to do it with feeling with intensity. And it does only take a few minutes a day and you use it or lose it.
Suzette Conway (Guest): Yeah, it’s a gratitude muscle, right? It just like any other habit that you want to have in your life, you want to you need to keep using it. But in order to do that, you need to make it easy and attainable and slide it into your existing routines and that sort of stuff, which is some of the stuff that we talked about in that course. And so I hope if you’re interested in that, or if anybody listening is interested in that, they’ll check it out. It is free. There’s nothing to it, you know, there’s no need to pay for it, but it kind of walks you through that and it’s for people who’ve never done it before, and people like yourself who either want to reconnect with it or amp up their current practice, and truly without sounding too salesy here if it’s worth a look because it is as I said, one of the most compelling ways to make your life better and
Rana Olk (Host): So powerful I think I may show up there I need some accountability and doing it again in a lovely way, lovely.
Suzette Conway (Guest): We have a flitter sphere group for people who take the course so you can go and chat with other people who are doing this work fantastic.
Rana Olk (Host): And maybe someday you’ll have some Firefly swag.
Suzette Conway (Guest): It is on the roadmap. I have no idea when that will show up. But yes, I’ll send you a shirt when we have one.
Rana Olk (Host): Thanks, Suzette. Well, to start with my gratitude practice, I am really grateful that we met thank you very much for being here and for sharing your story. And I hope to see 100,000 women there soon
Suzette Conway (Guest): From your lips to God’s ears. Thank you, Rhonda. I really do appreciate it also, and I too am grateful that we had a chance to get together and I’m looking forward to our blossoming friendship. I am so lucky to have other fireflies in my life Thank you
Rana Olk (Host): Thanks for listening everybody and I hope that you will go check out the flitter sphere if you could relate to this because I certainly would love to expand my flitter sphere. Now that I know this word. I’m going to use it all the time. And if you have any questions or comments, be sure to reach out to Suzette or me. Remember you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Until next time, make it a good day and don’t forget your gratitude!